Speech Challenge

"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." Eph. 4:29

Did you ever meet someone who acted like there was a prize for finding the most fault with others? They criticize their mannerisms, their choice in clothing, what they say, their homes, their yards, their jobs, the way they practice their faith, their families, their looks, their hairstyles, you name it. They are on a treasure hunt for the faults of everyone around them and they are very good at finding them. The Bible calls this a critical spirit. They criticize out of habit and rarely have a word of praise for anyone.

The Bible says we are to build one another up. Fault finding does just the opposite of that, it tears people down.

How can we build one another up according to their needs? We can start by going on a treasure hunt for what is good and right in others. Honest praise and positive affirmations should be spoken often unless the person is uncomfortable with them. Then they should be done in such a manner so as not to embarass. Everybody likes to hear what they are doing right.

Sometimes a person is sinning or doing something that isn't right. It is not wrong to talk to them about it if they are open to listening and to change. This is not done to criticize but to help and these instances should be rare. It should also be done with tact and diplomacy. If the person is not open to change or if they do not respect you, it is just a waste of breath and time. It is better to say nothing and leave it to those in charge. Prayer is always warranted. The Lord can work miracles.

Want to know if you have a critical spirit? Try this. How long can you go without saying anything negative about or criticizing anyone or anything? One week? One day? Twelve hours? One hour? Ten minutes?

If you try it, write and let me know how you do. For most it is harder than it looks.